“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.”
– C.S. Lewis, A Grief Observed
I am terrified of the outside world. My senses are heightened… I have formed a fragility towards the world. I feel completely cut off from the living world and when it comes too near I panic. Death permeates all I can feel… grief is my home, grief is my only comfort and I want to cocoon myself in it and never leave this place where time does not move forward. The pain kills my brain cells, renders me unable to move, removes my ability to feel anything other than the all-consuming nature of this. Yet the opposite is so unimaginable that I would rather stay in the darkness where my grief connects me to my love. It is impossible to explain the terror of a world that so suddenly became so unstable, so lost, so opposite of everything I ever held in my heart and soul as truth. Suddenly my life line is missing. I am missing. The ground crumbled beneath me, leaving me unable to breathe, leaving me bare. I have no fear of death because I want to die… I have a fear of the living world around me, constantly buzzing with a pulse that wants to devour everything I ever trusted and wants to rush this new existence into formation. I reject it. Grief is love, I caress the pain and call it my home.
I have never been someone who sought peaceful places… I like noise, hearing trains and busy city centres. I always have music playing. It is only since this happened that I have wanted peace and quiet. I finally felt some sort of sense of relief when I wondered round my home cemetery. I will go to my loves grave whenever I am in the country, but I found it could be any cemetery that allows me to breathe. I need peace, a place away from the outside world… a place that understands death and where the whole ground is made for mourning.
“I see what grief does, how it strips you bare, shows you all the things you don’t want to know. That loss doesn’t end, that there isn’t a moment where you are done, when you can neatly put it away and move on.”
– Elizabeth Scott, Heartbeat
2 thoughts on “On Fear”
How I can echo this ache. But I have also met, hope. A friend with a name, who calls me to venture out of the graveyard and into the arms of those who love me. My beloved one passed nearly 10 months ago. This gapping hole where half if my heart was ripped out, is not healed. I will feel the depths of its pain for years to come. But hope still whispers of strength, courage and love, beyond this place of hurt and grief. God’s rich blessings, may you walk one step at a time and see hope face to face.
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Hello there, thank you for your comment and firstly let me apologise for taking so, so long to reply. Your words about hope are so beautiful xxx
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